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Why Choose A Final Resting Place for Your Loved One

Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Provided by the Center for Loss and Life Transition.

When a loved one dies, many important decisions must be made.

How the person’s body will be cared for and where it will be placed are among these decisions.

Especially if you have chosen cremation, this article will help your family understand the many benefits of choosing a final resting place for your loved one.

After cremation

Traditionally, people who died were placed in caskets and buried in cemeteries. In recent years, however, cremation has become the most popular choice. Today in North America, the bodies of well over half of all people who die are cremated.

After cremation, there are still decisions to be made. Many families find themselves unsure what to do with their loved one’s cremated remains.

  1. Some families choose to have the remains placed in a niche in a columbarium or in a formal scattering garden.

  2. Others choose to bury the remains alongside the bodies of other loved ones in a cemetery.

  3. Still others scatter the remains in one or several meaningful locations.

  4. And finally, many families take the remains home and put them in a place of honor.

While all of these choices have unique benefits, choices 3 and 4 also have drawbacks that could affect your family in the years ahead as well as for generations to come.

What is a final resting place?

A final resting place is a permanent, secure, sacred, and public location for the placement of a body or cremated remains. It is usually marked by a plaque or headstone with the name and birth and death dates of the person who lived.

Why choose a final resting place for your loved one

There are many reasons why you should consider choosing a final resting place for your loved one. Let’s talk a little bit about some of the most important reasons.


Most people would agree that even in death, the body of a precious loved one deserves respect. This also applies to cremated remains, of course. When we place the body or remains in a permanent, secure, sacred, and public location, we are forever honoring the life of the person who died as well as the body that animated that life.


A final resting place is a special place for you and others to visit as well as a spot for friends and family to gather and remember. Without a final resting place to know about and visit, many grieving people end up feeling adrift and lost, not knowing where to direct their grief. This often happens with inaccessible, undefined, or unmarked scattering locations.


Honoring family heritage is another essential reason to select a final resting place after cremation. The location you choose will become a place for both friends and family to pay their respects for generations to come.


Grief is what we think and feel inside us after someone we love dies. Mourning is expressing those thoughts and feelings outside ourselves. And mourning is how we begin to heal. Visiting a final resting place often helps us mourn. It’s a healthy way to give expression to our grief.

Peace of Mind

As cremation becomes more and more popular, many families are accumulating cremated remains in their homes. What will happen to all those urns and other containers 20, 30, 50 or more years from now? Choosing a secure, appropriate final resting place for each loved one is a gift to the next generation. Instead of transferring the burden to them, you take responsibility for creating long-term peace of mind.

The professionals who can help

Whether you are choosing body burial or cremation, your local funeral home, cemetery, and columbarium professionals can help you select a final resting place for your loved one. They will also assist you in creating and placing a suitable headstone or plaque. Their expertise makes choosing a final resting place simple and complete.

A final word

Keep in mind that even if you take your loved one’s cremated remains home with you initially, it is still beneficial to choose a final resting place later on. Consider holding a small ceremony on an anniversary of the death as you commit the remains to their final resting place.

Choosing a final resting place is a gift not only to the person who died but also to your family and everyone who mourns the death, including you. You will find respect, connection, legacy, expression, and peace of mind in the decision.


We understand that making decisions about a funeral can be difficult. Whether planning ahead or at a time of loss, we're here to answer questions, support, and guide you every step of the way. 


Honor your loved ones by helping them honor you and your wishes. Be prepared by making important decisions and arrangements ahead of time. We're here to help you. 

Your loved ones will be grateful, relieved, and free to grieve with grace.

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